Success – it’s a really potent concept that can polarise us – even subconsciously. On the surface, we can say that we want to be successful … but sometimes there can be subconscious beliefs that hold us back. Thoughts like … “will people still love/like me if I’m successful?” … “Successful people can’t find balance elsewhere in their lives” … “A successful business or career means my family loses….” So what does this mean for us?
For some people, there’s almost shame about being successful
Sad but true – we can keep ourselves small for fear of being criticised for being too successful. I know I have!
And then if we look under the lid an even deeper set of subconscious beliefs around money and success can be lurking …. things like “money = greed” or “I’m not smart/ good /skilled/worthy enough to make money or be successful.”
These thoughts can lead to procrastination or a lack of focus in our business or career or life … and guess what … we get stuck and do not achieve the success we are looking for.
Let’s change the paradigm and get unstuck
So I think it’s time to change the paradigm around what success looks like! This is one of the reasons I developed The Stuck Solution – 5 Secrets to Slay Self-Doubt, Take Action On Your Goals & Dreams & Live the Life You Want. You can get it here.
Women do want to be successful
I recently surveyed women about what was bugging them most about their marketing and what they wanted their business to look like. The majority answered that they wanted their business to be a success.
So what does that look like?
The question to ask now is what does success really look like for us as women? Are we afraid of it or are we ready for it?
What if success meant you could:
- realize those quietly held dreams inside you that are just bursting to come forth into reality?
- serve the people you want to serve?
- generate the kind of income that means you’re running a real business rather than managing an expensive, time-consuming hobby that’s no longer that much fun?
- create an abundance of wealth that could create a substantial change in people’s lives?
- Pursue a change in your business or career that felt right for you?
- have the time you want with your family and still, run a successful business?
If we reframed success this way would success feel ok for you?
What do you think?
So over to you – what does a successful woman look like really? What does success mean to you? If you could dream your biggest dream – and not feel ashamed about it – what would success look for you?
Have an amazing day!